We’ve all heard – and feared – the horror stories surrounding the contentious divorce. It is an unfortunate fact that lawyers are blamed on much of the contention existing among spouses embroiled in divorce. In a perfect world, this would never be the case. The reality is that divorce does not just happen in a happy marriage and, generally, communication has been strained for some time. We understand your need to strike out and respond in haste, but these reactions are not always in your best interest.
You will probably note that your attorneys do not generally engage when these matters are escalating. Most lawyers practicing in the family law arena work with each other across the table day in and day out and have friendly inter-personal relationships that exists even during the most daunting of divorces. As a professional group, family law attorneys adhere to a certain decorum of operation with one another that is intended to promote cooperation, ultimately enhancing the efficiency and cost-effectiveness of legal counsel for all parties. We do this by following the rules of discovery, meeting deadlines and cooperating with administrative matters required during a divorce.
It is in your best interests that your lawyer understand the difference between disagreement based on emotion and that born of lack of continuity in moral or ethical standards. It is important for you to understand that the collegiality that exists among the lawyers in no way reflects upon the “toughness of your lawyer”. Cooperating as much as you possibly can with your spouse surrounding issues that can be agreed upon will save you time, money and the emotional stress that comes from arguing. We can help you find your way to cooperation for the benefit of your future, and not at the expense of your needs in the present.